donpurdum
Have you ever stopped to question if your beliefs are the barrier preventing you from having the kind of marriage God intended for you?
Do you have some deep beliefs about yourself, your spouse, or God that aren’t rooted in truth? Are the stories you’ve told yourself harming your marriage and robbing you of joy?
In our modern world, “belief” often refers to an intellectual acceptance of facts. For example, if you asked someone if they believed in Abraham Lincoln, they would likely interpret the question to mean, “Did he exist?” You would likely have some preconceived ideas about Lincoln that come to mind immediately. For example, he won the Civil War and re-united the country.
In James 2:19, “You believe that God is one, You do well; the demons also believe, and shudder.” The demons literally “believe” in God. They know who He is and the might of power, but they don’t believe in Him.
Faith has a different connotation than belief. It takes belief and adds to it trust and commitment.
Why is this important?
We tell ourselves stories all the time that may or may not be true or factually based on a “belief” about our spouse. Many people’s minds run wild with stories they tell themselves based on fear.
Fear is rooted in a false belief… Sometimes about ourselves. Other times about our spouses. Always about God.
The result is that many unknowingly undermine their marriage leading to all kinds of untrue beliefs…
My spouse doesn’t love or care about me
He or she is trying to hurt me
They are neglecting me or abandoned me
When we believe emotional stories over facts, it causes communication to break down. It erodes intimacy, trust, and confidence in your husband or wife. Somewhere along the way, miscommunication triggers a fear response that slowly (or quickly) devolves into a crisis.
Sooner or later, hurtful or painful words are sometimes said that can’t be taken back.
I’ve talked with couples (or spouses 1-on-1) who had assumptions based on beliefs and never directly asked their spouse questions or shared their feelings with them. It just felt safer to assume and uncomfortable to address. So, they allow their feelings to take over.
In doing all of this, they fail to recognize or surrender to God.
When we live in fear, make assumptions, and allow emotions to run unfettered without a logical balance we are not living in faith.
Hebrews 11:1 says “Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen…”
Here’s the thing. You can’t see the beginning from the end.
Only God can do that.
When we live in faith, we mentally and emotionally operate in a different space. No matter what our spouse is doing, we show up for them.
I find that when my fellow believers in Christ fully embrace Philippians 4:6 and Galatians 5:22-23, their lives change. These verses empower us to live by faith and not by sight. Our sight can mislead us, causing all kinds of chaos in our lives.
The antidote to suffering and pain is faith — In Christ.
When we live according to the standards God set forth for us by faith in Him, it changes everything. Our joy is made complete and whole, allowing you to be the husband or wife He called you to be when he joined the two of you in covenant marriage with Him and He made you one.
So, do you have some deep beliefs about yourself, your spouse, or God that aren’t rooted in truth? Are the stories you’ve told yourself harming your marriage and robbing you of joy?
It doesn’t have to be this way. You just need some spiritual and emotional tools to help you.
There is hope for your marriage!!!
For a very limited time, I’m opening up my exclusive Miracle Marriage Mentorship – normally reserved for private clients – completely FREE for 14 days.
Inside, you’ll discover:
- Two powerful weekly group sessions with direct access to me
- The Biblical blueprint that’s helping Christians win back their spouses
- Live “Workshop Calls” where I personally address YOUR exact situation
- A supportive brotherhood of Christian men fighting for their marriages
- Emergency access to our private community
Plus, I’ll reveal the hidden spiritual attack that’s targeting Christian marriages (hint: it’s NOT what most marriage counselors think)
This special 14-day trial closes soon.
God is offering you a path forward.
When you claim your free 1-1 call you can get access to the entire mentorship program – completely free – for 14 days.
But I have to warn you, this is for a VERY limited time.
We’re doing this as our “Black Friday” special, and we’re starting it early.
So if you want me to help you FREE for two weeks, this is your absolute best chance.
