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Everyone has secrets. For some people, it’s embarrassing to share something personal or intimate or mistakes from the past. Even with a spouse.
For others, they are ashamed of something they’ve done.
Some even participate in sinful behaviors they know are wrong but choose to do it anyway — Indulging in the lust of their flesh instead of self-control or spiritual and emotional awareness.
In every instance, there is a fear preventing someone from eradicating the secrets in their marriage or life that could lead to a better us.
See, we all have three areas of our lives:
- The public where we show the world what we want them to believe regardless if what we are showing them is genuine or a lie.
- The private where our lives are lived within the intimacy and security of a marriage relationship that frees us to be genuinely who we are in the public.
- The secret areas where we hide our deepest thoughts, feelings, and experiences… Leading to suspicion, anxiety, worry, fear, anger, or other destructive things in a marriage.
In a marriage, eradicating secrets and living in private with your spouse invites transparency, confidence, trust, and intimacy. It’s where bonds are forged and commitment is ironclad.
If you’re living a secret life through your thoughts, emotions, or experiences without your spouse’s awareness, you’re inviting problems. You’re creating an open door to all kinds of problems that will lead your marriage down a road you likely don’t want to go.
The Bible tells us, “For nothing is hidden that will not be made manifest, nor is anything secret that will not be known and come to light” (Luke 8:17).
Daniel 2:22 says, “He reveals deep and hidden things; he knows what is in the darkness, and the light dwells with him.”
Keeping secrets is a form of deception lurking in the darkest places of our minds — Both consciously and subconsciously. Sooner or later, your secrets will find you out and when they do, it won’t be on your terms. Instead, it will come with significant consequences.
It may be that the biggest thing causing pain in your marriage is that one or both partners are concealing themselves out of fear…
- Fear of being found out for who they really are…
- Fear of being exposed as a failure…
- Fear of being found out as a fraud…
- Fear that you won’t be accepted or loved for who you are…
- Fear that you will be rejected…
These are all lies.
Why?
Because many seek their identity in their jobs, public perception, their families, spouses, or children instead of in their God. The truth is our marriages are predicated on Jesus. It’s a covenant with Him. In Ephesians 5, the Apostle Paul reminds us that our marriages are the living epitome of the relationship between Jesus and His Bride (i.e., the Church). If God brought us together and made us “one,” then who doesn’t take care of their own bodies?
See, you and your spouse are one. If you harm them in any way, Paul tells us you harm yourself.
There should not be any secrets in a marriage.
Your value and worth are given to you by the Creator of Heaven and Earth. God loved you so much that He sent His only Begotten Son, who humbled Himself and took on flesh, on your behalf. Jesus showed us how to live, suffer, and die. He overcame death and sin through the resurrection, and He promises the same for those who trust and believe in Him.
The Scripture tells us to be imitators of Christ. We are supposed to live our lives as Christians in surrender and devotion to Jesus as His disciples (Luke 14:26-35). In doing so, we live as couples dedicated to Christ, our marriages are consecrated through our vows to Him. Jesus said He made us one (meaning complete and whole) in marriage.
No other earthly relationship can do this.
It’s through marriage we are vulnerable with one another. Through living in the private together we experience unconditional love and security.
If you haven’t experienced this in your marriage, it’s likely because you’re holding something back. There’s a fear keeping you from experiencing the joy of marriage, even the hardest times of your life.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
There is hope if you realize you’re holding back and are living in fear. You may not have the tools or skills to resolve this conflict. If you want healing and restoration but don’t know where to start, hope and help exist.
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