Maya Angelou once said, “Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.”
For many newly married couples, the experience is full of hope. Yet, along the way, things have a way of changing. Kids, jobs, entrepreneurship, and adversity began to dull the once bright hope. Happiness was replaced with hurt, anger, and bitterness.
Love slowly turns to wrath and eventually, couples stop cuddling and start fighting. Soon, one day, one or both partners conclude that things aren’t working out. Instead of seeking the true remedy for the problem, one or both decide, under false pretenses, that they have fallen apart from one another.
In our society today, it’s harder than ever to maintain a lifelong marriage. The statistics are staggering. Between 35-50% of all first marriages end in divorce. Second marriages are even higher at 60-70%.
Among entrepreneurs, it’s even more staggering.
Few pains hurt worse than a failed marriage.
There is hope!
Your marriage does not have to be a victim of betrayal, disloyalty, and suffering.
When God created this Holy Coventantal Sacrament — that’s what marriage is — it was meant for each man and woman to complete one another. They were to work together as a team to bear each other’s burdens, support one another, and overcome adversity.
In my experience having worked with hundreds of couples over the last 20+ years, the majority of problems they faced were a consequence of selfishness. One person was looking out for their own best interest instead of their spouse’s. There is little compromise and a lot of hurt.
Does that sound like the love that should be shared between a man and a woman in marriage?
Many people love to quote 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. It’s a timeless passage about love that works in any context. While the Apostle Paul didn’t write it to talk about marriage, it is highly applicable.
“4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never ends.”
You may feel your marriage is barreling to an end. You may believe there is no hope.
There is ALWAYS hope!
With God, all things are possible — even the restoration of a marriage.
Neither may not know where to start to put things back on track.
Let me share the first step… It’s putting God in the center of your marriage. He brought you together. You are united in one body.
Who purposely hurts their own body?
Instead of reacting with anger, try grace. Try asking questions and giving each other the freedom to answer honestly. Accept one another, forgive one another, and seek God’s forgiveness together.
If you’re not sure where to start or where to begin.
If you don’t know what to do.
If you want the hope and excitement of your marriage to return… there is help.
If you want or need Marriage Coaching or Counseling (they are not the same thing), fill out the form below and Father Don will reach out to ASAP.