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One of the most devastating things a spouse can say is they aren’t in love anymore. It can pierce the heart and leave the other spouse wounded and deeply hurt.
The question is, how did your marriage get to this point and is there anything either of you can do to restore your marriage when it feels like all hope is fading?
When one spouse feels taken advantage of, neglected, or even abandoned, it could result in a feeling of deep separation. Some spouses even say they don’t believe they could ever fall back in love, putting a proverbial dagger in the heart of the marriage.
Is it true that couples can never regain the love, trust, and intimacy they once had?
Of course not. I have seen couples going through divorce rediscover what led them to fall in love with their spouse in the first place.
Here’s the thing, the culture has redefined “love” to be an emotion. As long as things are great, both partners feel “love.” It’s conditional depending on circumstances, situations, and feelings.
That’s not how the Bible defines love.
Love is an unconditional choice. The kind of love that ought to exist in a marriage reflects the love of Christ towards his bride (the Church) and her to the Groom (Christ). This kind of love creates transparency, confidence, trust, and intimacy that can only exist in marriage.
In 1 Corinthians 13:4-8(a), the Apostle Paul defined love. He wrote…
“Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails…”
So, when a spouse says they are no longer “in love,” they have decided that God’s definition of love isn’t good enough, because they don’t “feel it” or they don’t have a proper understanding of God’s definition of love and His purpose for marriage.
Now, I’m not saying there aren’t good reasons to feel negatively about the condition of a marriage if the circumstances warrant it. What I’m saying is love is a choice.
Marriage is also a commitment.
In 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, the Apostle says, “But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband… and that the husband should not divorce his wife.”
Regardless of how difficult things are today, you can restore your marriage.
There is hope!
It starts with surrendering to Jesus Christ and trusting Him with your marriage without controlling or manipulating your spouse to get the result you want.
I know it’s possible because I’ve experienced hundreds of couples who said they “weren’t in love anymore” and only a few months later they were fully devoted to one another.
They replaced “happiness” (or, in this case, unhappiness) with joy that can only come from God. Our joy, peace, and love come from the Lord.
Joy is unconditional. It’s the root of love.
If you or your spouse believes you’re not “in love” anymore, there’s a reason. If you want healing and restoration but don’t know where to start, hope and help exist.
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Blessings to You!
Fr. Don
