In a healthy marriage, your feelings should never feel like a debate. Yet, in my years of working with couples, I’ve seen far too many spouses treat each other like the enemy instead of teammates.
How does a marriage devolve from a place of love to a battlefield where every thought, motivation, or emotion is a fight?
In many instances, it starts with a deeply ingrained insecurity.
One or both spouses decided at some point they were right… About everything.
This leads to one or both partners dismissing the other’s opinions, thoughts, and feelings out of a need to defend their own actions. In turn, they minimize the other person’s experiences.
This leads to feelings of belittling, not being heard, aloneness, and abandonment.
Here’s the solution… Love, acceptance, and respect aren’t about being right.
It’s about being kind, compassionate, considerate, and learning how to care for each other in ways that lead to value and respect.
So, where does insecurity come from that creates a battlefield environment in your marriage?
- A misplaced ego.
- A deeply felt hurt from a past relationship (parent, sibling, friend, a past girlfriend or boyfriend… Or even a spouse).
- A significant disturbing event.
Whatever the case, at some point insecurity masks itself as conceit and arrogance as an offensive and defensive mechanism.
In Philippians 2:3-4, the Apostle Paul writes, “Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also the interests of others.”
When our marriages become battlefields it’s because we’ve entrenched ourselves. Our need for self-validation or protection from pain overrides what’s in the best interest of the other person.
At the center of every great marriage is humility and a purposeful desire to put our partners above ourselves.
Here’s the problem. Most of us have a few decades of experience and programming that overrides our conscience’s ability to treat our spouses the way we want to be treated.
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Blessings to You!
Fr. Don