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Every couple has disagreements.
Every couple fights.
We’re often led to believe this isn’t good or healthy for our marriages, but that couldn’t be farther from the truth. Conflict can be a good thing if you have the right tools in your toolbag.
Before I explain why conflict can be a good thing for your marriage, let me share there is one piece of marriage advice that’s been repeated for a long time, and it’s horrible.
Some people say you shouldn’t go to bed angry with one another.
Here’s why it’s horrible advice…
First, who can go to sleep when they are angry?
I don’t know about you, but when I’m amped up sleep is the last thing I can do.
The issue isn’t anger. It’s a perfectly normal and acceptable emotion. The Bible isn’t anti-anger.
What the Bible is, is anti-sin!
In Ephesians 4:26-27, the Apostle Paul writes, “Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil and opportunity.”
If we don’t resolve our anger, we open the door to making assumptions, prolonging unnecessary conflict, hurt feelings that turn to bitterness and anger, and unforgiveness can fester in our hearts and minds. When we create an opportunity for Satan to get in the middle of our marriage, meddle, and cause such chaos it hurts our relationship and walk with Christ.
Still, sometimes conflict can’t be resolved in only a few minutes, and our anger can make things worse if we do or say something that causes an unintentional escalation.
There are times when “sleeping on it” is the best thing you can do. It gives you time to cool down and think about the situation, and come to your spouse in a better frame of mind.
Most importantly, a short pause allows you to talk with God through prayer and seek His guidance and will for this situation.
That is NEVER a bad thing.
Now, if you can resolve the conflict quickly, then do it. If one or both of your anger is off the chart, that isn’t going to be helpful at the moment. Allow yourselves time to come down from the emotions before you attempt to resolve the problem.
This honors you, your spouse, and above all God.
Anger can be very good for your marriage. It reminds us that we are different and have room to grow in our relationship. Anger says we care about our spouse and value our marriage. When resolved correctly, it creates more transparency, confidence, trust, and intimacy between one another.
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